Today is Friday! I love Fridays. It means that my hubby will be home during the day for the next two days. I know that may not seem much to you but we have spent a lot of our time together apart. Between work, military, work, military and so on. Even though we will be REALLY busy this weekend I love just being with my hubbs! Just a little pre-warning.. This is a long post!
So last night while reading my book I am required to my Christian Counseling Class I had a not so subtle smack in the face. It discusses how a child’s upbringing affects their relationships with others as they get older. Even into their marriages. I am not a lovey dovey kind of mom… I have never really been that way. I think it has just come from how I was brought up. Tough independent woman. My mom was not a mushy person, she rarely cried and I think that is why I am the way that I am. I NEVER cry, unless I am mad but that is a different story. I have also struggled with my self esteem… It is a long story and I never really had the affirmation from my parents. It was really on the contrary but I will not go into it because we have all looked back and discussed it as adults and have had regrets and have forgiven.
It always seems like God is really trying to hammer something into my head when it seems like everywhere I turn is what he is trying to get me. Even to the TV show that we watched last night. In the show This Is Us the dad was videoing his daughter and she did not want him to, she struggled with her weight and she had low self esteem. She copped an attitude and got upset with him. When she went back and watched the video and seen the pure love and pride in her fathers face she could tell how much he loves her. So later she went on to tell him to never stop trying. “Never stop trying to get me to see myself the way that you see me”. That is echoing in my head!
My oldest daughter is tall, very thin and fit with long blonde hair and blue eyes. She is GORGEOUS! My youngest daughter is shorter than her and athletic and still has a bit of baby fat on her but she has the most beautiful BIG teddy bear brown eyes, beautiful thick light brown hair and a smile and a face that can light up a room. For her entire life her weight is what was talked about the most.Throughout our ENTIRE family and I know even at the young age of 8 it has affected her. If you have met her she has a HUGE personality and I think she does that to deflect an insecurity she has with herself. One day I took the girls shopping and when my 8 year old started crying because she wears a bigger size than her older sister and says shes fat it was then I knew… SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE!!!!
So after reading what I read in my book I immediately stopped reading and took her into my arms and hugged her. Mind you I did not have this much growing up so this is all new to me. I grabbed each side of her beautiful face and looked into her gorgeous brown eyes and told her how beautiful she is. Her reply “No, I’m not the pretty one, my sister is”. My heart shattered… I went on to explain that they are both equally beautiful and that because they look DIFFERENT does not mean one is more beautiful than the other. I told her what Psalm 139:13-14 says “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” I explained to her that her daddy and I think she is beautiful inside and out and that everything that God makes is beautiful. That Her daddy and I praise God for the beautiful precious children he has given us.
Lesson learned! My promise is that my daughters will know that they are beautiful but not just in mama and daddy’s eyes but in The Kings eyes as well! They will know that they were wonderfully made just the way that they are and God makes NO mistakes, and everything he makes is beautiful. So here is my challenge to you, Love your children. Tell them how wonderful they are, how beautiful they are, how smart they are and how proud of them you are. They will take the kindness and love that you have shown them and share it with others. I pray you all have a great day and enjoy your weekend! Don’t forget to leave me some love in the comments! =)